Bar Scott

A New Kind of Love

Since early November I have struggled with how and what to write. For the last seventeen years, since the inception of this blog, I’ve opted to remain apolitical believing that Love is more powerful than any message I might write about the right or wrong way to move forward politically.

            The last post I sent out included a new version of my song “Love is the Reason.” When I recorded it, I felt sure that Hillary Clinton would win the election a few days later. As a supporter of hers, I wanted to remind my self and others to be inclusive (and not smug) as her administration got to work. When things turned out differently, however, I found I wasn’t able to feel love for the other side the way I hoped I would when Hillary won. Realizing my own shallowness was a pretty big shock for me. It made me – and continues to make me – question my previous work and all the work I might do in the coming months and years. Was love really strong enough to overcome my differences with others? Was the love in my heart big enough to include those I was suspicious of? Did their hearts deserve my love?

            These are heady questions that I think a lot of us are dealing with now. I don’t have any answers except to continue asking questions of myself, and to continue with the work I love. In addition, I’m becoming more of an activist. I want to speak up about the things that are important to me. I want my gay friends to know I have their back, and my Muslim friends, too. I want my Congress People (all men out here) to know that accessible women’s health care is important to me, and that health care for all is too. I’m calling them, emailing them, and organizing events so that others can easily do the same. I want the world to feel like it did to me on January 21st when so many of us went peacefully to the streets to say out loud This is not the world I envision. I want kindness and diversity to exist together. Millions of people proved it was possible and it thrilled me to the core. The photographs of all of us from around the world restored my hope, something that had drained from my heart.

            Every day, I see a version of the mountains in the photograph above. Some days the mountains are clear; some days they are covered in clouds. Some times the sky is blue; other days it is swirling with grey and white disturbance. The planet is awesome wherever you are, but it's glory is clear and visible every morning when I walk our dog, Wally. I want this world to be preserved. I want everyone to care – consume less, take notice more often, develop empathy and kindness above all else.

            During these days of divisiveness, I want to remember what music does for me, what writing stories does, and I want to do more of both. I want to do my part to create more beauty, and to create a world I want to live in. 


Thank you, Bar, for the inspiration. After the DeVos confirmation, I am so disheartened. It's hard to surmount the awful divide. If I ignore politics, I find the world beautiful, filled with natural beauty and good people (like you!), so I'm going to concentrate on your last sentence. It's perfect for a world that is not.
Thank you all for your thoughts. I'm disappointed in myself because I thought my heart was bigger, but I'm struggling with how big it is (or not) after all. Truth is, I have many friends here that I like very much who see the world entirely differently. There's plenty of love for them despite our differences. It's the mindset of some that feels mean-spirited to me that i have trouble reconciling. That's why I want to cultivate empathy in my own life, so I can get in their shoes and see things from their perspective. Difficult...So I keep growing and seeing new sides of myself...good and not so good.
Hi Bar, As always, I love your blog and you. I'm so glad you're getting active - we need all of us who strive for the light to be striving and shining as much as we possibly can. It's really hard right now. I think it's a lot like dealing with an addict where you have to have strong boundaries and say no to things and still keep an open heart. What I love about this time is that people are coming together in just that way. We got together with friends the other night for dinner. Before we ate, we wrote postcards to our representatives and talked about the political scene of course. But then, we had dinner and talked of other things and loved being together. I have to believe that love will win (even if we have to love certain people from a great distance ;-)) Sending you love & hugs, Julie
Great blogpost, Bar! Yes, many of us have been walking around feeling as though we've been kicked in the gut, or hit over the head with a crazy stick. American politics is difficult for me to come to terms with right now. The incredible diversity/divide in the way we humans view our nation and the Universe has become brutally apparent to me since election day. I try my best (not always succeeding) "not to question a person's motivation, but rather, their judgement". Peace and Love, Mike
Thanks for sharing these thoughts, they could have been mine. I question myself daily about how to deal with the current situation and people I know who voted for him. Like you, I'm becoming more involved and refuse to give up hope that we can make a difference and make a change. Hang on my friend, we are in for a very different 4 years. Sending you a warm hug.
Dear Bar Thank you so much for these words. So many of us have been caught in our assumptions about how generous and open we are towards those "unlike" us. It seems that we are OK with skin color and sexuality but beliefs, not so much. I join you in trying to find ways to open my mind to others' minds and hearts. we will all learn a lot in the process and hopefully minimize the damage at the same time. And what would I do without music!!! and specifically YOUR music! hope to see you in April in Woodstock

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